Selfish, naughty, bad.
Have you ever called yourself that for secretly yearning a quiet weekend away from your husband and kids who sometimes drive you crazy?
Or, for spending an afternoon meeting friends for lunch instead of sorting that pile of laundry from days ago?
Or, for picking up a favorite book instead of spending time to play princess and tea party with your 5 year old?
Let me be honest. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
All moms need a regular getaway. I highly recommend dating yourself each month.
Life is busy, busy, busy in marriage and in parenthood. At the end of the day, when you are done taking care of the children, your partner, your job, the chores — you are too exhausted to take care of you.
And sometimes, you become so attached to your kids, your partner and their needs that you lose your individuality, your identity. You no longer know what sparks a light in you because you are too entwined with theirs.
You are lost. That is not cool.
Here’s my advice from personal experience, and from the many years of coaching moms who deal with this syndrome at some point in motherhood.
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The moment you begin to date yourself you become clear about what you want, and you begin to add value to the relationships that you have – to your partner, to your children.
When you date yourself, you know yourself more. You like yourself more. Your disposition becomes more positive. Feeling better about your life always improves your relationship with your family. Oh joy!
Some years ago, I found what I love (among other things). I joined and completed my first Iron Girl Triathlon in 2011. When I signed up, I did not even know how to swim. But it’s something I knew I wanted to do. And so I did.
It took a lot of courage and endurance to make it to the end. I was victorious. My children saw my determination to push beyond my limits. They were so proud of me. They have since started calling me The.Best.Iron.Mom.Ever. It was all worth it and so much more, I tell you.
THERE IS NO SHAME OR GUILT IN FINDING TIME FOR YOURSELF TO THINK, TO FEEL AND TO FIND YOUR CORE.
Spend time with yourself, take care of you and find what it is that you want – a sport, or a new hobby, or maybe a post-grad degree. Or maybe just an hour a day of doing something fun and frivolous by yourself like coffee at starbucks, a morning run, or writing in your personal journal.
That will help you grow. That will make you a better wife, a better mom, and a better person.
And you know what’s cool?
WHATEVER YOU DO FOR YOURSELF, IS WHAT YOU ARE ABLE TO SHARE WITH YOUR FAMILY.
I BELIEVE WE GIVE WHO WE ARE.
A better, happier you equals a stronger marriage and a stronger family.
Can you relate to this blog? When was the last time you dated yourself and what did you do? Do you know another mom who needs to date herself? If so, please share, share, share!
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